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The Missing Piece in Habit Change: A New Way to Quit Drinking
Most people miss this. Your beliefs—those deep-seated, often unquestioned assumptions—shape your behavior far more than willpower ever could. And the kicker? They’re not even facts. They’re just repeated thoughts you’ve absorbed over time.
Want to stop drinking for good? You need to stop believing the lies about what alcohol does for you and start believing what life looks like without it.

Elly Young
13 hours ago3 min read


How to Stop Drinking for Stress Relief: What Your Body Actually Needs Instead
If you’ve ever found yourself pouring a glass of wine before your brain even catches up to the fact that you’re stressed, you’re not alone — and you’re definitely not broken.
Stress is the number one reason many women drink. It was for me too. But what I’ve learned (and what the science backs up) is that alcohol is a fake-out relief. It promises calm, but delivers chaos — especially for women in midlife whose hormones are already doing gymnastics.

Elly Young
Jun 133 min read


4 Stress Traps I'm Skipping This Summer and What I'm Doing Instead.
Summer is supposed to feel like a break. A slowdown. A chance to breathe.
But for most moms (myself included), summer often feels like more: More kids at home. More meals to cook. More late nights. More social events (and temptations). And the reality... less time for myself.
In the past, this used to throw me into full-on anxiety mode. If I couldn’t keep my workout schedule, stick to my food plan, or stay productive with work — I felt like I was failing and I would get r

Elly Young
Jun 34 min read


The Inflammation Solution I Wish I Knew Sooner: Why I Take Pro-Resolving Mediators (Not Just Fish Oil)
If you’ve ever wondered why your joint pain, brain fog, bloating, or hormone imbalance isn’t budging even though you’re eating clean, exercising, and taking your Omega-3s… you’re not alone.
I was in the same boat.In fact, on my most recent functional lab work — even with a high-quality fish oil supplement in my daily stack — I tested deficient in Omega-3s. 🤯
As someone with Hashimoto’s, a condition rooted in systemic inflammation, this was a wake-up call. I’d been doing

Elly Young
May 283 min read


The Creatine Comeback: Why This Powerhouse Supplement Belongs in Your Wellness Stack (Especially in Your 40s)
Let’s talk about an unsexy supplement that’s making a seriously science-backed comeback: creatine. Yep — the one you might associate with high school boys at the gym trying to “bulk.”
But here's the plot twist no one told you: creatine isn't just for muscle heads — it's for hormone health, brain clarity, mood, metabolism, and midlife muscle preservation.
Especially if you’re a woman in your 40s navigating perimenopause, stress, and post-alcohol recovery.

Elly Young
May 273 min read


"Doing the Most" Isn’t Wellness: Let's Detox from Hustle Culture by Doing Less
But here’s the truth: doing the most isn’t wellness — it’s burnout in disguise.
And one of the biggest examples of this myth that women in our 40s have internalized is that we need to detox and that means deprivation, restriction, or punishment. That we have to suffer our way to balance. Let’s bust that myth, shall we?

Elly Young
May 273 min read


When Alcohol No Longer Holds Value, Walking Away Feels Like a Power Move — Not a Punishment
There’s a subtle shift that happens when you stop white-knuckling your way through sobriety… and start truly seeing alcohol for what it is: something that no longer adds value to your life.
When that clicks? Walking away doesn't feel like deprivation. It feels like empowerment. Like freedom. Like finally stepping into your next-level self.
After 4+ years alcohol-free, I can tell you this: not drinking doesn’t make me feel like I’m missing out — it makes me feel like I’ve

Elly Young
May 203 min read


Why Cycle Syncing Is Better Than Dieting — And How It Changed Everything for Me
Most diets start with a harmful belief: “I need to fix myself.” They’re rooted in fear — fear of gaining weight, of getting older, of being seen as “less than.”
Cycle syncing flips that on its head.
Instead of chasing unrealistic ideals or restricting what you eat, you start tuning into your body’s unique needs — and giving it what it asks for. Each phase of your cycle has different nutritional and lifestyle needs, and honoring those makes you feel supported, not starved.

Elly Young
May 183 min read


Why Changing How You Feel About Alcohol Is the Real Secret to Quitting
This work helps you identify the emotional drivers of your cravings — and change them at the root. Because here’s the truth: we don’t drink because we want to feel bad. We drink because we believe it will help us feel better.
But that belief? It’s outdated. And often, it’s built on a pile of cultural conditioning and subconscious programming that’s never been challenged.

Elly Young
May 174 min read


Is Alcohol Really Helping You Relax? The Science Says No.
We drink to relax, right?To have fun, take the edge off, or just feel something different.
But what if that nightly glass of wine — the one you swear is your reward — is actually making your stress, anxiety, and low mood worse?
Let’s walk through the real science of what happens in your brain when you drink — and why knowing this might be the mindset shift you’ve been missing.

Elly Young
May 162 min read


5 Effective Steps to Stop Drinking Without Feeling Deprived
If you’ve tried the 30-day challenges, the books, the apps — and nothing seems to stick — it’s not because you’re weak.
It’s because those tools weren’t working with your brain and your biology. They were working against it.
We’re doing things differently here. We’re rewriting the beliefs that fuel your cravings. We’re hacking your environment, your rituals, and your nervous system — and we’re laying a new path, brick by brick.
I call it your Golden Brick Road — the path b

Elly Young
May 155 min read


Breaking the Friday Night Drinking Habit: A Real Talk Guide to Early Sobriety
So you’ve made it through your first week alcohol-free — whether it’s your first real go at this, or your fiftieth Day One that finally stuck.
And now it’s Friday.
Maybe the weekdays felt manageable. You had a rhythm, a plan, maybe even a little post-hangxiety motivation. But then the weekend hits… and suddenly everything feels a little louder. The cravings. The doubts. The what am I even supposed to do now?
That’s totally normal. Because let’s be honest — for a long time,

Elly Young
May 144 min read


5 Mindset Shifts to Stop Drinking
I was stuck in the gray area drinking cycle for decades, clinging to routines even when I know I needed to evolve. So, I dug deep into my own journey, revisited what I learned along the way, and distilled it all into five essential truths about creating lasting change. Trust me: these truths helped me move beyond a cycle of self-sabotage, and they can help you too.

Elly Young
May 133 min read


Stop Drinking with Cycle Syncing: The Missing Link to Hormone Balance and Energy
Let’s just get to it: Alcohol isn’t helping you live your best life. In fact, it might be the one thing quietly unraveling all the other...

Elly Young
May 134 min read


7 Herbs That Help Women Over 40 Age Better — Naturally
Aging well doesn’t require extremes — no cryotherapy chambers, 3-hour morning routines, or spending $200 on a serum made of snail mucus...

Elly Young
May 133 min read
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