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Hi! I'm Elly. I coach health ambitious women to cut alcohol, balance their hormones and biohack to heal years of cellular damage WITHOUT giving up the fun AND reconnecting with your authentic self in the process.
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Sound Familiar?
Becoming aware you need to change your relationship with alcohol is an uncomfortable place to be. All change lives on the other side of this discomfort. You're not alone.
You're feeling shame about your drinking but can't seem to make a change.
You're drinking to cope with life's stressors only to feel more anxious and depressed than before.
You're waking up at 3am with anxiety after drinking and can't sleep.
You make promises to drink less but willpower keeps failing you
You can take a break but you feel deprived and like you're missing out
You recover from a hangover and vow to take a break but wind up drinking 3 days later
You're worried what your kids have seen and what they're learning from you
You can't find a stretch of time to take a break in your calendar and it's been a long time since you've gone without it
Don't Worry!
I've been there too.
I had no idea how much I could change and what was then possible. I turned my pain into purpose, my grief into gratitude and my struggle into strength. Without alcohol holding me back, I was able to optimize my health, and reconnect with my passion and purpose. This is possible for you too.
There's No Shame in Wanting to Take a Break from Alcohol
About my coaching method
Everyone is afraid of the words “alcoholic” and "addiction”. These arbitrary labels do us a disservice by limiting who we believe needs to confront their relationship with alcohol. Most people shy away from confronting a change in their relationship to alcohol because they don’t want to identify as having a “problem” or be labeled, yet they still drink far more than they'd like, and spend a ton of mental energy managing alcohol in their lives. I encourage you to drop any shame about exploring this and welcome a conversation about your wellness. The question isn't whether you're an alcoholic or not, it's will you be more well without alcohol in your life? How much is it holding you back from the life you want to live? There are no labels here and we will learn to drop the shame and welcome compassionate curiosity on our journey.
Because drinking has been so normalized, very few people question their drinking behavior. Everyone is doing it and it’s not until one tries to stop, that they realize what a hold it can have on you.
I know, I’ve been there! I tried several detoxes, and “breaks” from alcohol, so I could prove it to myself that I could, but I was miserable the whole time, counting the days until I could drink again, and then went right back to my same patterns.
Overtime, we develop mental cravings, believing we need alcohol for a myriad of reasons in our life. Most of these beliefs were built into us through decades of social conditioning in addition to the alcohol industry successfully marketing alcohol with every positive human experience. We've been sold the idea that alcohol is not only necessary for these occasions, but even responsible for the joy.
This program teaches you how to shine a light on your beliefs that are keeping you stuck in the drinking cycle. When you change your subconscious beliefs, you are find that you are no longer stuck in a willpower battle and your behavior will naturally flow from there and your desire to drink will fade.
Coaching Programs
As a certified coach with This Naked Mind, I offer a variety of coaching options to meet you where you are at. I personally used a coach for 4 months at the start of my alcohol free journey. The coaching programs are designed to first get you alcohol free (a prerequisite to full healing), and then work on balancing hormones and biohacking to heal years of cellular damage.
HAVE SOME QUESTIONS?
Is this like AA?
This is very different than AA because I operate from the notion that there is nothing wrong with you and that you are not doomed to feel this way forever about alcohol. This program leads with compassion for yourself, and works with your brain's neuroplasticity by changing your thoughts and beliefs about alcohol. When you change your beliefs, you feel differently and your behavior will start to change naturally.
I'm not an alcoholic, do I still need coaching?
The term alcoholic is dated and puts the blame on the person rather than the addictive substance. If you are questioning your drinking and comparing yourself to some idea of what it means to be an "alcoholic", then perhaps you don't feel great about how alcohol is showing up in your life. A coach can help you examine the subconscious beliefs that have you mentally craving alcohol for a variety of reasons. Becoming aware of these is the first step towards changing how you feel about alcohol so you can then change your behavior.
How can I start working with you?
Book a free 15 minute discovery call with me to see if we're a good fit. No obligations and no pressure. I'm not here to sell you, you have to be open, ready and to want it mroe than you fear it. I have 2 options to help support you. There is the BRAVE Challenge to kick start your break, or if you're ready for more transformational change, Accessing Awe is a 12 week coaching program with 1 on 1 coaching tailored just for you.
What will people think if I have a coach to stop drinking?
Going alcohol free is the best form of self care there is. This is a conversation about wellness. I used a therapist as well as a sobriety coach for 4 months when I first started my alcohol free journey, and it's a big reason why I'm a coach today. Change the conversation from shame to empowerment. Kicking the alcohol habit is tough, just like dieting and starting an exercise program, but we hire coaches for those all the time. If you're curious about making real change, I can help.
My Story
I officially gave up alcohol February 18th, 2021 after decades of "gray area" drinking. I had no idea I had the capacity to change as much as I did. I struggled to change my relationship with alcohol and carried a lot of shame, despite keeping up an outward appearance of having it all together. I was a Mom of 2 young boys, athlete, and entrepreneur. I was able to accomplish so much in my life, but I relied on alcohol to get through it, and it became the daily reward for my hardwork. It wasn't until I picked up the book, This Naked Mind by Annie Grace, and started working on my thoughts instead of my behavior, that I was able to change. Giving up alcohol for good was not my intention, but this program is so effective, I no longer had any desire to drink. My life improved and expanded in so many positive ways, I felt compelled to help others do the same. I decided to pursue becoming an alcohol free life coach focused on helping people find freedom in their relationship to alcohol. After 6 months of transformational training, I received my coaching certification with This Naked Mind Institute. It's the most meaningful and impactful work I've ever done and I'm just getting started. Now, when I look at my two boys, I know that the best thing I've ever done for them is give up alcohol and set an example of facing life's challenges without numbing them. I believe in this methodology and am confident I can coach you through this pivotal moment of transformation in your life.
Curious if this is right for you?
Book a free 15 minute call to find out more about my program. No strings and no obligations. I know I can provide something that can help you on this journey.